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  Since You've Left The Organization Have You Turned Into A "Bad" Boy or Girl?

  by minimus in

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  the witnesses say that if you leave the religion you will become a very vile person.

  you will probably get vd.

  you will get into drugs and booze, your life will go to hell.. personally, i've been pretty much the same guy although i would now be viewed as a "fornicator".

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  I'd like to talk to some ex-JW couples

  by Mad Sweeney in

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  i know a few of the guys here started to fade and managed to bring their wives and family along on the exit.

  i will be sending some of you a pm or fb message some time soon.. are there any ex-dub ladies here who managed to influence your husband to re-examine and eventually quit the borg?.

  it is very difficult to get to the genuine personality of an indoctrinated jw but if anyone can do it, a loving spouse can.

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  OH and I meant to add as a couple we are much HAPPIER too. We laugh together so much more now .
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  I'd like to talk to some ex-JW couples

  by Mad Sweeney in

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  i know a few of the guys here started to fade and managed to bring their wives and family along on the exit.

  i will be sending some of you a pm or fb message some time soon.. are there any ex-dub ladies here who managed to influence your husband to re-examine and eventually quit the borg?.

  it is very difficult to get to the genuine personality of an indoctrinated jw but if anyone can do it, a loving spouse can.

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  I was the one in our family that decided to leave . I knew my husband was not happy or that particulary active as a Witness ,but he was mentally entrenched in the concept of the Witnesses having the 'Truth'. I pulled the rug out from under his feet when I told him I was done and never going back to the meetings . If I had it to do over again I would have prepared him first . He thought I was going to leave him and that our marriage was over ....it makes me sad to realize the mental ,emotional pain I put him through . At the time I just did not know any other way out I was so afraid of what was going to happen , and at that time i was really afraid to honestly talk to my husband . We both held back our true feelings about so much when we were Witnesses .

  Luckily after he realized it was just the JW's I was leaving ,he stopped going to meetings too . It has taken him a bit longer to work through the JW web of lies ,but I think he now sees it definitely is not the truth .

  We are much closer now . We communicate and talk about everything freely now ,no more judgemental attitudes we worried so much about as Witnesses .He used to be so exhausted and depressed on meeting nights . Now if he comes home from work tired ....he takes a nap , and doesn't feel guilty because he didn't rush around getting ready for a boring meeting.
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  What keeps you going after your exit from the Watchtower Society?

  by Awen in

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  i am curious as to what you first did when you left the watchtower society's mind control cult.. did you try to find friends who had gotten out also?

  did you go to school (college/university)?.

  how different was the "world" you now found yourself in compared to living in jw-land?.

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  Did you try to find friends who had gotten out also? Did you try to get others out?

  I faded in 2006 . In the past three yrs I have contacted old friends that had also left the witnesses ,mainly on facebook .

  I have no desire to 'get anyone out ' . Leaving the religion has to be a personal decision made when a person reaches the point that they can admit all is not what it seems with in the KH walls . Even my own children had to make their own choice without pressure from me . HOWEVER ....If anyone that is an active Witness asks me why I left .....I will certainly not hold back the whole TRUTH and reasons .

  Did you go to school (college/university)?

  I was born and raised as a Witness and left when I was 44. I would love to be able to go to collge , but just feel it is not feasible money and age considered .

  How different was the "world" you now found yourself in compared to living in JW-Land?

  It feels like a very heavy burden has been lifted from my shoulders . I feel for the first time in my life that I am truely FREE to live my own life . In the congregation I was constantly worried about stumbling someone . I questioned my choices all the time worried someone at the Hall would consider me weak . I always felt NOT GOOD ENOUGH . The witnesses used emotional blackmail as a way to keep 'friends' in line . Such as "Well if you get more hours in service You will get more social invites ." You are not liked because of who you really are as a person ,but what appearence you make in the congregation .

  What surprised you? Were the "worldy people" anything like what the WTS had warned you about pre-exit?

  What surprised me was how easily we were welcomed by 'worldly friends'. The best surprise I have received was that my older DA'd brother accepted me with open arms even after all the years I had half heartedly shunned him .

  I attended a Church the first few months after I left and I cried at how sincere and loving these people were .....so very different than what the KH had preached about them .

  I have made many new friends and so far none are as horrible as the WTS described . Instead i have found friends that are accepting ,without manipulation .

  It did not happen over night .The first two years were tough ! But I can honestly say "I am happier now than ever before ,and it was all worth it to feel this alive ,finally "
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  WTB$ joining the UN was lies all LIES I TELL YA!!!

  by punkofnice in

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  i've been a very naughty punk and am hoping a good looking babe will spank me.....any offers?

  ahem!

  away from desired fantasy and to reality...........(but you can pm me...wink wink).

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  check jwfacts.com there is a copy of letter on there.
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  A brother at my wife's congregation wants to study the Bible Teach book...

  by garyneal in

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  ... he apparently has wanted to do so for a while now.

  i agreed to meet with him this tuesday night at 6:00 p.m. edt.

  he asked me to pick the chapter where i wanted to start.. hmmmmm... where shall i start?

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  Ahhhh now I understand ,thanks Gary . Good luck with it all . I do feel sorry for you having to waste a perfectly good evening though when you could be ....oh I don't know ...posting here instead
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  A brother at my wife's congregation wants to study the Bible Teach book...

  by garyneal in

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  ... he apparently has wanted to do so for a while now.

  i agreed to meet with him this tuesday night at 6:00 p.m. edt.

  he asked me to pick the chapter where i wanted to start.. hmmmmm... where shall i start?

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  SERIOUSLY .......isn't there anything better you could spend your time on ??? What is the point ? You already don't believe their teachings ,and you can't really believe you are going to convince the JW he is wrong . Games such as these are not worth playing in my honest opinion .
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  An Update to me!

  by youngbro in

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  good evening everyone!

  i hope all are well and what not.

  i wanted to update everyone as to how i am fairing, for i know that while the dubs in my kingdumb hall do not care...you do!.

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  Glad to see you are doing better !
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  I also has a dog that could be described as "poorly" right now.

  by JonathanH in

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  i was just reading sprout's topic on their poorly dog, and this comes at a time my dog seems to be having problems as well.

  i have a french bulldog that's about five or six years old, and just yesterday he started acting strange.

  he was trembling and shaking really bad, and i was worried at first.

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  I think you should take him in for a check up . Panting might indicate heart problems maybe diabetes . Something is not right .

  I hope it is nothing serious .
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  For My Christian, Jewish and Atheist Friends, "Why I am No Longer a Christian."

  by Robdar in

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  this is a rather long yet fascinating documentary from a former ku student about his transformation from a true christian believer to an atheist.

  if you have the time to watch it, i would love to hear your comments.

  http://topdocumentaryfilms.com/why-i-am-no-longer-a-christian/.

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